In a society like ours where love marriages are still taken with a pinch of salt, where your personal preferences take a back seat over the ‘what biradari wale will say’, two complete strangers are married off (read arranged marriages) and expected to take the vow of ‘Till death do us apart’. The result is often a lot of unnecessary emotional baggage. If these are the state of affairs amongst the educated lot of our country who socially and economically occupy the top 5 or 10% slot, then the occasional news from the rural hinterland about people killing young couples just because they married outside their respective castes hardly come as a surprise.
Suppose you end up marrying your beloved and if your marriage doesn’t satisfy these irrational and absurd conditions laid down by the conscience keepers of our culture, then the society will go to great lengths to criticize your decision and make you realize that what you have done is not something held in high esteem in our culture. If the purpose for marriage would only have been procreation, then we need to look at the physiological aspects of such a convention like a husband should always be older than his wife. Thankfully, the sole purpose of marriage is not procreation. But still I can’t help looking into the physiological facet of a man being younger than his wife. Experts say that there’s no scientific reason why the wife should be or should not be older than her husband.
Entire generations have been brought up by feeding them the ‘acceptables’ and ‘unacceptables’ and many of these ‘acceptables’ don’t make any sense to a rational mind.
I won’t touch upon the subject of inter-caste or inter-religious marriages in this context. With the danger of being termed as a feminist, I would like to elucidate the fact that in spite of blowing trumpets of female liberalization, we have brought up entire generations of MCPs (Male Chauvinist Pigs), men who are uncomfortable if their wives are financially independent. Our whole attitude towards this liberalization and ‘times have changed’ rhetoric seems to be hollow and hypocritical.I, personally certainly don’t condone a scenario where in men and women get into a shallow physical relationship just for the heck of it. The keystone of any relationship should be trust and commitment. If these things are present then the rest just don’t matter. All other things are irrelevant, least of all age.